Best Wishes on This 4th of July, 2008

101 Amaging Ways to Say “I Love You”

I have unexpectedly been unavailable to post to my blog in the last month. So to show my love and appreciation for all of you, I would like to give you this free e-book, as my gift to you.

I will be busy posting as soon as I take a few days to get back into the swing of things.
Best Wishes, and thank you for your loyalty.

101 Amazing Ways to Say I Love You!.pdf

What Games Are You Playing In the Name of Love

Okay, just when I think I have seen it all, there it is…it’s inevitable that I will come across yet another thing in life that will leave me in disbelief. I was doing my regular surfing among the promotional sites, when I came across “Imaginary Girlfriends.com“. I almost hate to put the link here, as I imagine the people reading this that are going to click on over there, and how many may actually sign up, and what is going through their heads when they do. Some scary thoughts start popping into my head.

Some people will do just about anything to gain confidence, or to be deceptive, both fooling themselves and the world.

The ad talks about the reasons you might be in need of this service. Tired of having friends and family tell you that you need to have a girlfriend? Want to get over on an ex-girlfriend and make her jealous, along with a few others. It’s a good thing the woman I wrote about in “Alls Fair in Love and War”, didn’t see this ad, only in her case the opposite, “Imaginary Boyfriends.com”. I somehow think she would have been a regular customer.

When you sign up, you can send them information about yourself, and make up how you met, so that the “girlfriend”, can send you fake love letters sprayed with perfume, that will be geared toward the story you are filling all of your friends and family with. Depending on the girl you choose, because they are all unique, they will email you, web cam you, instant message you, and send you photos, a special gift. Then when your time is up, you can have the pleasure of feeling superior and break up with your imaginary girlfriend, or you can extend your service, of course, if you choose. Hell, why not just give them all a whirl?

I have to wonder what some of the thoughts going through the customer’s mind is, as they run around lying to all their friends and family about their “girlfriend”. Do they pass their imaginary love letter around for all to see? Leave it on the coffee table and invite their ex-girlfriend over, or better yet the person they are interested in now? Do you frame the photos that they send you, and display them in a prominent place, and carry a few in your wallet? Do they disappear for a weekend now and then, only to come back and lie some more about what a sex filled weekend they have just spent with her? And just how many helpless smucks are actually going to start believing the whole façade, before it’s over?

What do you think?

Tools For the One Night Stand

This is for all you gals who find yourself the morning after having one too many, and wish you hadn’t.

Watch and You Will See What the Body Is Telling You

Our subconscious mind speaks to the world in many different ways, one of which is through our body language. You might be curious to know that when we are communicating to others that:

• 55% of our communication is visual (though our body language and the eyes)
• 38% is vocal (the pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice)
• 7% the actual words spoken

Body language tells us a lot about a person, and unless we are consciously trying to act or behave or appear a certain way such as when we are out for a night on the town, women some of them for example will swing their hips more and act sexy, and men try to appear more confident, the “Alpha Male”; despite those times most all of our body language comes straight from the subconscious mind. When we are unhappy for example, we don’t sit up as straight, we walk slower, the tone in our voice changes, and when we are happy our gate, posture and voice expresses it.

Let’s just make a few points about the face alone. When we are giving a fake smile we actually use different facial muscles than when we are sincerely happy. But then that refers back to consciously trying to portray, or rather lie who we truly are, thinking or feeling, and when we are being genuine. One act is done consciously and the other comes direct from the subconscious mind.

You can take a FREE test here that takes about 10 minutes, to see how well you fair consciously trying to determine if they are displaying a genuine smile, or a fake one.

Or you may want to try your hand out on seeing if you can tell what the person is thinking by just being able to observe their eyes.

Women are better at determining this then men, due to the fact that our brain mass and development, (I will do an article on the different make up and physical differences between the male and female brain) is geared toward being better at expressing and determining the emotions of others.

There is the well known saying that “The eyes are the window to the soul”, and the eyes alone can tell you a lot about how a person is feeling. If they don’t look at you when you are having a conversation with them for example, can mean a lot of things such as, they think they are better or more superior then you, they are lying, shy, nervous. On the same token, if you look too straight into someone’s eyes for too long, you will make them feel uncomfortable. Normally they are not picking up on this fact consciously, although sometimes that is the case, but most times this is coming from their subconscious mind signaling to them that something is up. Studies through the use of laboratory instruments have shown that the slightest change in eye expression is picked up at the subconscious level.

Most of this communication is your subconscious speaking to the subconscious of others. The dilation of the pupils in your eyes, blood flow and the tone of your skin changes with your mood, muscle contraction, etc…all come from and are picked up subconsciously.

Really makes you wonder, “What is my body language saying to the world around me?”

Do you know that attackers, whether they are muggers, rapist, and even players, usually pick their victims through observing their body language?

Every part of your body is displaying some sort of message; from your eyes all the way down to the direction you are pointing your feet. And the further you get from the face, the more genuine the body expresses itself due partly to the fact that if you are intentionally trying to present yourself in a certain way, you concentrate on the face, and less so, as you move down the body.

• You can learn how to:
• Flirt and attract the opposite sex
• Show that you are confident on that Job Interview
• Gain rapport, influence and persuade
• Make that sale

By learning Body Language you can also learn what others are unconsciously saying to you:

• Is He/She Flirting With Me?
• Are they interested? Or not?
• Know when someone is lying to you
• Are they, shy, confident, angry, nervous…

And the list goes on and on.

Have you ever had a feeling about someone or something, but you just “can’t put your finger on it?” Hmmm.